And our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye are partakers of
the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation.
me, and I know He will save each person who comes to Him with faith that He lives,
prisoner of war. Stockdale documented three responses to that terrible trial, which I'll
The pessimists saw the brutal facts, gave up and died, even though their bodies may have been healthy.
2. The optimists had boundless faith and ignored the brutal facts. They believed every rustle in the bush was marines coming to save them and that they would soon be on their way home. When that did not happen, they too gave up and died.
3. The realists faced the brutal facts, but had faith they could be dealt with. They accepted the improbability of rescue any time soon and banded together determined to survive anyway.
In the aftermath of tragedy we all have the same three choices: to be a pessimist and die inside, to be overly optimistic (put on a smiley face, pretend it didn't happen, live a lie) and eventually crash, or we can be realists. We can accept what has happened, gather our support systems, turn to the Lord, learn what He has for us to learn, have faith that we can make it through, and choose to live.
you take at least one step back. The grieving process generally takes longer than you ever imagined.
"Be merciful to me, LORD, for I am faint; O LORD, heal me, for my bones are in agony. My soul is in
"I am weary with my sighing; Every night I make my bed swim, I dissolve my couch with my tears. My
Heavenly God, I cannot even begin to put my grief in a time frame. Thank you that I don't have to.
and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit" (Psalm 34: 18).
I AM SO GRATEFUL TO KNOW THE LORD AND HIS COMFORT AND THE SOURCE OF STRENGTH AND PEACE. I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW HIM EVEN PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER. May we all try to share this blessing with others. As we are comforted, we are able to comfort others.