80% of couples where one or both have a chronic illness end up in divorce. There has been almost no guidance for these couples, and counselors rarely know how to counsel the chronically ill person, much less the married couple where an illness is involved. This is a very under-developed, neglected area of research and help. When I looked for books on the subject a couple of years ago, I found 3. One was by a bitter, frustrated husband who still stayed with his wife, one was by a man whose wife would die soon, so there was nothing about continuing to live with illness, and another was kind of a journal or therapy book by a couple, just expressing their own feelings, but no guidance or helpful ideas.
I have just ordered this book from http://www.amazon.com/ . I am looking forward to it getting here. What's even better is that they have started a website to help couples facing illness. Of course it's called http://www.couplesfacingillness.com/ . If you go there, you can read pages from the book, and watch a short video about the couple that wrote it. William and Jamey July. He has a Ph.D. and she is a former athlete.
I am hoping that so many couples will find this site that it can grow and perhaps become the biggest site for helping couples with illness. I hope they can help lower the divorce rate of us who need companionship most of all. They may even be able to change the stigma of marrying a person with an illness.
I believe that illness takes you out of the world, and keeps you closer to God. Just as a blind or deaf person uses his other senses to make up for the blindness or deafness, we develop our spirituality to bear the inadequacies and inabilities that we live with. Visit this website if you are half of a couple facing illness. I think you will make some great discoveries. Maybe my new marriage CAN last forever!